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An Easter Bonanza.

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Boy am I tired. It is just past 830PM, Sunday and I am already tucked up into bed with Eleanor asleep next to me. I tell you, I don’t think I’ve ever had such a busy weekend in all my years. Trying to squeeze in visiting, birthdays, lunch dates and a whole host of other activities, all with a teething baby is not easy going.

I hope this post isn’t as dark as my previous. I am generally in better spirits this past week than  I have been, with holidays approaching and a general need to keep busy, I’m happy to say that I feel a little more like my old self. Long may it continue, it’s really time to enjoy the days and the moments that I have and share with family, there is no time to allow sadness to consume my thoughts.

Easter weekend started on a high, Friday night Euan had finished up work for the weekend and we had a wee Easter egg hunt around the home after dinner. Just a little bit of fun that killed a half hour and followed by a glass of red with some chocolate of course.

It wasn’t a late one as we had an early start on Saturday morning. I recall managing around three sips of my wine before retiring for the night. Days have changed, that is a given.

Saturday morning,  we rised bright and early (thank you, Eleanor) , got ourselves breakfast before heading out on a very, busy day. A bank appointment in the morning to open our first joint account.. Hello adult world. Followed by a drive through coffee stop while heading out to Stonehaven to visit our nephew on his birthday.

We said our hellos, passed Eleanor around and best of all, unleashed our inner child and played with all of Toby’s toys, train set included! Saturday afternoon at it’s finest. I really do enjoy visiting family, I find that you always leave feeling happy and refreshed. With so little time for visiting and seeing everyone that we would like to, it is nice to preserve that time and just enjoy being in the company of our family and loved ones.

Our nephew had a wonderful day and was in great spirits, full of excitement on his birthday which was lovely to see. We stayed for around two hours and headed home for a spot of lunch. A brief pit stop before doing the holiday shop which felt like a bit of a supermarket sweep. There were tantrums,  tears a plenty and there were moments where I was close to pulling my hair out. Have you ever had a domestic with your partner in a supermarket? My stress levels through the roof and patience thin.

Saturday afternoon as mentioned, called for a trip to the Boots store to gather holiday supply’s for ourselves and Eleanor. We needed to gather some bits and bobs to add to the suitcase, general health supplies really with some baby food pouches just in case. I can now happily say that I’ve finally packed my suitcase and I am ready to engage holiday mode and relax knowing that I have got all I need from my list. I am as organised as can be, on paper. That doesn’t mean come the trip this will be the case, I am sure there will be some bumps In the road. For now, time to zip everything up and forget about the enjoy the next week of chilling before we head off on an adventure.

In the evening, with it being such a crazy day we decided to grab some chips from the chip shop and have a glass of wine, the desire to wind down and have an early night was insane. What a busy Saturday, I don’t think we caught five minutes of chill time between us! At dinner, we had a bit of a shenanigans – the cherry on top, I believe. Eleanor projectile vomited her dinner all over and we require a full strip off and good hose down of the kitchen and ourselves. Yuck. With the stress of cleaning up a kitchen full of sick, to the teething woes and the days hustle and bustle, we gave up all hope on a sophisticated dinner.  Chipper chips drowned in vinegar and wine would have to suffice. Boy did that do the trick and there were no complaints.

Come Sunday we woke feeling far more relaxed and chilled after a good sleep. It was early doors again as Eleanor wakes around 630AM but this was okay as we had a fresh start and a second day of running around. In the morning we got ourselves sorted to head out for the day, with a trip to the Carmelite to pay off some of our wedding function  to kick start the day nicely. It is always a good day when we take a trip to pay some more wedding off, I suppose it gets the excitement flowing. With less than six months to go, we had better get making plenty of trips with payment or nobody will be getting their dinner.

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ZaraAfter this, we headed up to the local shops and had a nosey around the Disney store and of course my all time favourite, Topshop. We had a wee haul and then decided to grab some lunch, it was a nice day and the sun was shining. This called for Mackies ice cream parlour, it was Euan’s call and lunch was on me, an early birthday treat.

I opted for crepes with banana ice cream, smarties and peanut butter sauce, Euan went with a waffle, lemon ice cream and chocolate sauce. All very delicious and filling. If this wasn’t an Easter treat, I don’t know what is.

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I suppose you could say that we were rolling all the way home. Thank goodness that I had the pram to push and use as a support aid. On our travels, we stopped by the Waterstones store to get some holiday reading material then carried on our walk home in the sun. We definitely got the best of the good weather for a change.

Again, a non stop type of day, when we reached home, we did relax and wind down for a while before nipping out on a lidl run to grab nappies come evening. I wasn’t feeling too great,  call it a sugar crash or fatigue, I do not know but one thing is certain, I was done in. After some cheese toasties (with a side of pasta) for dinner, I called it a night and went to bed.

Although a poor sleep and a general feeling of unwell, today marks the beginning of a new week. This week my goal is to relax as much as I can to prepare for the pending holiday which I am sure will be pretty full on. We have a day up at my Mum’s tomorrow with little else on the cards. If I am lucky, it will be a week of napping, gallons of coffee and trash TV. Hello pawn stars repeats!

I Hope that everyone has had a lovely Easter and made time for family and room for some indulgence. Treating yourself once in every while really can make all the difference to your mood, besides who doesn’t love a sugar fix? I am off with Eleanor to nap, enjoy your week whatever you may be up to.

 

Keren x

Living in a modern day society deprived of fulfilling basic manners.

  Manners are designed to acknowledge others but all too often I feel that we are failing to use our manners. We are too consumed with technology and caught up with ourselves. People have bumped into me and have not muttered a word, no apology.

I’ve had doors closed on my face, people queue jump a lift as I wait in line with my baby in her Pram, people fail to step out from a lift to allow me to pass. They stand and watch with judgement as I try to manoeuvre myself and the Pram out, desperate not to squish any toes. Though, if I happened to roll on any toes by accident,  of course it would be my fault and the blame be pinned on me, not the individual who lacked basic manners and failed to move out of the way.

We as people are now failing to say please and thank you when ordering their morning latte. Basic manners have slipped our minds. This is becoming an increasingly big issue and I worry that come time, there will be no sense of manners. Society will become a free for all and not one of us will look out for the other. Is this the way we want to raise our children? The next generation?

We as people, are failing to respect one another and respond appropriately to a small act of kindness, such as making room on the pavement for another to pass. Is it so difficult to say please, thank you, sorry? I was raised to have good manners and to use these at all times. To be kind,to have compassion and to help others in need. I never saw differently and like to believe that I always treat others respectfully, the way I would like to be treated. I find myself often disappointed at the lack of morals I share with others in our society. Perhaps I expect too much but believe me when I say that modern day manners are lacking in society.

On a recent walk during a Saturday afternoon with our dog,  we found a woman passed out beneath a park bench resting next to a river. Clearly intoxicated and in a bad way, we stopped to help and call for an ambulance. I don’t know how long she had been sprawled on the ground prior and have no indication of how she got there. I was afraid that she would tumble into the water and there would be no going back. As we were waiting for an ambulance to arrive, it became clear that we were the only people along a busy road to have the decency and sense to stop. That no other would bother. Not one person stopped to offer a hand. Heavily pregnant and with our dog in tow, we waited around an hour for help to arrive and watched in astonishment as passers by merely stared. With passing cars and pedestrians you would think that someone, even just one individual would stop and offer a hand. Again, I must have expected too much.

When help arrived, we were shunned and made to feel as though we shouldn’t have bothered to call for help. The ambulance crew did not mutter such as a thank you and the woman in need did not show a care in the world. I felt ashamed and was upset with this, we were made to feel as though we were wrong to have called for help. Had we not, would someone else have bothered, or would the woman have been left outside in the cold to perish?

Perhaps we are all losing our manners because our acts of kindness go unnoticed and seem unwanted. Why should we bother to help others, to say please and thank you if this is not well received?

Wether people were too embarrassed or afraid to stop or wether they simply could not be bothered, I don’t know. What I do know is that this woman could have came to find herself in a very bad way or even had died if left alone and not one person took the time to even just ask wether she was okay or offer a hand. Hypothermia, choking, drowning. The possibility of a life threatening issue arising was high and I didn’t want to take any chances.

I’d hate to imagine that was my gran who had taken a fall and was left to lay on the ground alone until someone could be bothered to see she were okay. Have we all become too consumed within ourselves and caught up in our own lives that we forget about others and fail to show respect, to show compassion?  Where are our manners?

When you open a door for someone you acknowledge their presence and the need for you both to use the door at the same time. Wether you nod, smile awkwardly or simply say “Thanks”, you return the acknowledgement. Don’t over complicate opening a door for another  with feminism or being a gentlemen, there isn’t any need. This is simply a door that requires opening and it’s rude to shut it in someone’s face. End of.

Have you offered help to an elderly lady across the street? Checked in on your parents, grandparents? These manners are a basic mechanism for those in society who are less able to protect themselves. Manners are not only for communication purposes, manners have the ability to protect others. To protect and care for vulnerable groups within our society. Groups that we are beginning to forget.

Manners are designed to offer fairness, to give each person an equal opportunity. We are taught to wait our turn in the queue, not to interrupt someone who is talking. These simple manners evolved so that everyone is given an equal chance and the opportunity to participate. Manners provide us with an element of fairness, equality and order.

Without manners it would simply be a free for all and who decides who comes first?  What’s to say that one person is more important than the person next to them? There are no barriers without manners. I’m afraid society is becoming more of a free for all and it is every man for himself. It’s a dog eat dog world for sure.

Manners are designed to reduce conflict and without these in place I fear that we will become over run with daily issues, big and small.

Think of all the recent times you have been annoyed at an individual. Maybe while driving your car, out on the weekly shopping trip, or even just walking in a crowded place. I could go on.There is a good chance that you were annoyed because the person who caused you to feel this way had failed to show basic manners. Failing to indicate when heading in a certain direction, failing to move out of your way as you try to squeeze your way through a busy crowd.

Manners should be used to reduce the strain between people in the same way that traffic lights are used to reduce accidents at crossings. With society failing to participate to meet standards, I am afraid that conflict among ourselves is becoming rife and this is a big problem.

Would you rather be treated with respect or treated rudely? People treated with a little respect and dignity are more likely to be positive toward you than if you treated them poorly. I think that this is something we all need to keep in mind and we must remind ourselves of our manners and the part that they play within society.

Next time you order your morning latte, remember to wait your turn in the line and to thank your barista.

Manners can make such a difference and even just having someone hold the door open for me can make my day. I’m going to ensure that my daughter is raised to have strong manners and good morals. She will be raised to grow to become a polite and kind woman, to have compassion and to have the ability to connect with others and offer help if required.

Society may be losing its manners, but I am sure not going to lose mine. These will be inflicted and influenced within my family and our household because I know just how important they can be and how important they can make you feel.

 I will not lose myself and the standards to which I was raised to a society that has become ignorant and thankless.

Let’s again pick ourselves up and raise our modern day standards for the greater good of our society. If we don’t act fast, I am afraid for the future of our generation and the generations that may follow.

 

  Thanks for reading,

 

   Keren x

Taking a leap of faith.

“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears”

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Into my mid twenties and baby ready, I suppose you might say that I am a little late to step into the world of blogging. I am currently feeling motivated at this stage in my life and ready to branch out from the comfort of my Instagram account, get creative and begin a new online adventure. An adventure to use as a learning process, a tool for my own personal growth.

 

My name is Keren Polland. I have chosen to begin a blog to capture moments and experiences of every day life. I have always wanted to start my own blog, to create something that is solemnly mine. As an introvert with little knowledge of blogging, I shied away, allowing my hopes of blogging become a pipe dream. I couldn’t possibly create something that others would want to read, could I?

With a new found focus and the want to do well, to create, I have decided to give this a shot. To get stuck in and give it a spin. Better late than never. I thank my boyfriend Euan very much for doing the background checks and setting up this space for myself. Without his help, knowledge and guidance, I would still be mulling over the blogs of others, desperate for my own. I am preparing to begin family life with my best friend. Expecting a little girl at the end of the Summer, the start of a new chapter in my relationship. What could be more exciting? I am going to focus my blog on this new family life, to put focus on my child, my relationship and my experience as a new mother. The good, the bad and the ugly. I want to open up and share my stories. Reach out to others and create an online following of not only followers, but friends. Others in a similar situation, experiencing the same as I.

This blog, MY blog is set to be a personal reflection of my own thoughts and views, a personal yet public journal. An outlet to unwind and to share. An accout of daily life, yet a brief escape from reality. With a spell of maternity leave on the horizon, I needed some sort of hobbie to occupy my mind and a place to share and reflect in order to keep myself sane during those long days and nights of no sleep nursing a newborn.

Broken routines, daily change. I can feel the anxiety build up just thinking about what is soon to come. I am someone who has to have a plan for EVERYTHING. My life is almost timed to perfection; feeding times, bathing times, leisure times and bed times. My biggest struggle I face with becoming a new mother is the sudden lack of routine. To have to adapt to a whole different take on life as we currently know it is a scary concept. For now, it is 10.20pm. I am tired and quite heavily pregnant. Time to rest my eyes – until the heartburn kicks in and sleep fails me ( this happens a lot lately) but I’ll take whatever rest I can get.

Goodnight, Keren x

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