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A change of heart.

First of all, I’ll apologise for my lack of prescene online. With a growing baby  demand for my full attention at all times has become a first priority. Eleanor is now on the move, vocal and ahaving a spell of nap refusal. We have 5AM wake ups and 8PM bed times. I began a book way back in March and I don’t think I’m half way through as of yet, it’s terrible. Call it laziness, call it busy, exhaustion, whatever you like.

The point is, I have so little time to think right now, I don’t have the spare time to blog,when I do get that minute peace, I nap because frankly, it’s the only hope of a good kip. An active and demanding baby and an active family life has left myself with little free time to blog or even concentrate for that matter.

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I return to work in a few short weeks and my priorities right now are making the most of this time out in the sunshine, playing at the park and being with my baby. I’ll never get this time back, my blog can take a back seat. I think that’s fair? Anyway, as I mentioned, I’d keep you all in the know with any wedding plans and change, so here I am, posting about a change of dress as Eleanor has a feed.

I was set, good to go. A white dress, inexpensive, drop hem, little lace.. It was perfect..until it wasn’t. With the Wedding drawing close and free time running low, I was on a tight time scale and budget to find the dress for me. Sure, the white was lovely but I’ll stats that say for a Summer day. It wasn’t right to wed in, it’s just not enough of me, it was much too ‘safe’, and I’d hate to look back and think I wish I’d worn another dress. Scrolling online, I came across the perfect dress. It would have been wrong not to try it on for size. As the title of this blog implies, I had a change of heart. It was instant.

The Friday afternoon that it arrived, I was ecstatic. I didn’t expect it to fit so well or look as it did but its just right. I’m sorry option one, in the closet you go. This dress is to die for, a cowl neck, a slinky material that hugs all the right places made from my favourite material. Modest in length (longer than the first) and my favourite colour. Correct I’m not wearing white on my wedding away. The accessories I have match perfectly and I have a faux stole coming my way to finish my look off. I’m hoping for an old school, glamour look. A little modern take on a vintage bride. Birdcage veil included.

With mention of the birdcage veil, I’m still unsure of a hairstyle? I think a ballerina bun, scraped back from my face and held high. Classic and simple yet practical with a small baby who tugs at my hair and face non stop. Right now. I’m unsure wether to incorporate a braid for some modernism or to just let my hair hang loose in beach style waves with the veil draped down my face? I have some time to play around and an appointment with the hairdresser on the day on my wedding to get my favoured style put in place.

I have collected some little accessories here and there. Vintage Bobby pins, a blue brooch to fit the something blue trend, a garter hand made from Etsy by the most lovely lady and some small rhinestones which I’m not quite sure what to do with yet! I’ll find a use though, my Mum said you can’t have too much sparkle on your wedding day and I’m going with that. Although she returned her dress as she claimed it was too much sparkle for a day time..

Euan and I have a photographer booked tnow too, something we weren’t originally going to opt for but with only having one wedding day in your life time to gtt it right and have it just as you would dream it, we decided to go with a local woman who took beautiful images of Eleanor back at the beginning of the year. It seemed only right to re book with Eni, and to remain an intimate ceremony and celebration. I’ll be grateful to look back on our Wedding photographs come years and cherish all of the memories, especially of Eleanor being with us.

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(I think she is feeling as excited as I am for the big day when Mummy and Daddy get married, don’t you?)

We are set to meet the coordinator at the hotel reception on June 3rd before I return to work and get all of our plans, table set up and decorations in place. I’ve got all the little bits and bobs that we will use to decorate the room, now just to hand over the supplies and get the menu’s down to a tee for the big day.

I’m real excited as time reals in on us. I can’t wait to have a lovely day with my love, my baby and our close family and friends. I’m so happy with how our plans and ideas are taking shape, my dress and whole look has come together on a whim and how small and intimate we have kept the day in general. Now just to wait for the day to come around and seal the deal. How did you spend your Wedding day? Has anyone had a fiasco with a Wedding dress last minute?

Keren x

The hunt for the perfect dress. Diary of an unconventional Bride to be.

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I’m a self confessed shop addict with a love for the High Street. I favour the likes of Topshop, Urban Outfitters, ASOS, Mango and Free People to name a few.

My wardrobe and clothes drawers are bursting at the seams and refuse to close, this is no exaggeration and I boast a collection of probably around sixty dresses in a variety of shapes, styles, prints and colour. All hanging on top of one another in a big mess of clutter.

The thing is though, I’m all for casual wear and dresses you can team with boots, or trainers taking you from day to night. I don’t actually have a clue about wedding dresses or dressing for a wedding. Heels are also a no go, I own countless pairs as I can’t refrain from buying them, aren’t they gorgeous? but,  I can’t walk in heels to save my life. It’s shameful really.

A wedding dress, It’s never something I had plans for or thought about. I’ve never had the illusion of my dream dress float above my head. I didn’t expect I’d ever marry so I didn’t have to worry about the planning aspect that comes with a wedding or decision of choosing a dress to wear. Formal wear let alone Bridal wear is an unknown territory to me and where I know what styles look good on me causally, I don’t know what to picture myself in as a Bride.

I thought that I had the perfect dress tucked away but one look from my Mother’s face and I was instantly uninspired with it. With that notion and a look I will never forget, the hunt for a dress began. A new dress that I will be keeping all to myself until the day comes to get up and put it on. If I were to go by different reactions to different dresses and styles, I’d never settle on one that I like. It’s too off putting having the input of others.

Now, this is something not to be taken lightly. Where I want a small and intimate wedding event with a mere few family and friends, I still wish to wear a dress that flatters me and my personality but without the expense of a bridal dress. I want to look pretty and wear a dress that I can feel good in, a timeless item that I can return to and wear again and again. Much alike Keira Knightley and her wedding gown, only I won’t be rocking Chanel couture (and I don’t look like Keira either, sigh).

A wedding dress is certainly a dress that you want to remember for the rest of your life, hold so many memories of the special day each time you look at it. Now, that leaves big shoes to fill for any dress you buy that follows. Wether full on gown or simple pencil dress, it has to be perfect for me and our special day. I don’t want to look back in dismay for the dress I wore.

I’m a fashionista, I love clothes and putting outfits together, it comes easily to me and I find it fun but with the whole aspect of wedding dress hunting, I am struggling. I can’t find a dress that suits my shape or style.

A long gown is too long for my petite frame not too mention a little too formal for an otherwise informal ceremony. I think long gowns or long tuelle skirts just make me look frumpy and awkward. A short gown on a bad leg day could be a disaster and leave me looking more like a sausage roll than a glowing Bride. Not ideal.

Tuelle can be difficult to style and if you buy cheap, it looks cheap. A dress too white could look well, too white yet a dress with colour poses an issue with what flowers or shoes to match with, patterns can be too busy and aging. I don’t mind mis match, in fact, I quite like putting fabrics and patterns together that clash but for this day in particular I just want something that is one all over style and is easy to dress.

Two pieces, I like but it’s finding the perfect two piece. A satin skirt with a sequin crop? Too glamorous. A paper waist midi ball gown skirt and a cropped cardigan? Too 1950. I have seen real nice two pieces online from searching but the price can be crazy high, I’m excited to find the right style for me but I am not easy to please on this one. I don’t want to pay more for a dress than my whole wedding day, that would be silly, I’ll take the expensive shoes instead!

A drop waist I do like but the wrong style of drop waist could leave me looking shapeless. You have to be careful with length with a drop waist. So here is my issue,you see? What does the modern day Bride wear to her informal wedding day?

I don’t hold a budget specifically, but I don’t want to be paying crazy money for a dress that I may never wear again. A dress can be just as special without the price tag. As soon as you search tag with the word ‘Bridal’ you see prices increase.

I want something different yet acceptable to wear as a Bride, I don’t want too much glam as I’d feel really silly, it’s just not me. I need to wear something that feels like ‘me’ only a slightly more formal vision. I’ve scrolled Debenhams, Ghost, Zealand, ASOS bridal, Etsy and more.

So the hunt continues to finding the perfect dress. So far, I’ve returned two that I have been unhappy with, and I have two on order, waiting to test out. With that said, onto the next one, and the next one…

and the next one. Wish me luck, let’s see what I can come up with in the coming months. Here’s hoping I can find my dream dress and don’t end up looking like a glammed up sausage roll. Here’s to hours of hunting.

Keren x

 

We set the date!

Well, I must say that the year has been kind to us. The most special year I have had yet, the year we began the family adventure, the year we got engaged, the year life as we knew it changed forever. I have taken only the good from 2017 and will carry it with me for the rest of my life. It’s not every year you have your first child or get engaged!

To keep the trend going and end the year with a bang, we decided to take the plunge, set the date and book our wedding ceremony. We done this is all of two days may I add, with a baby in tow. Productivity at its finest.

With having the perfect date in mind, we already had a good idea of when we would wed, we just didn’t have the year in place. The fourth of September was our date of choice, already a special day for us as it is both our anniversary and the date of which we took Eleanor to have her birth registered. We thought to extend the day with another happy memory and add to it the day that we are to become husband and wife.

Euan called the office on Friday morning to check that the date was available for the coming year, 2018. They had the date free and we had the choice of time slot to attend. With it being a Tuesday, a funny day to marry.. we know, we went with an early afternoon slot. As the local registrar is a central location we wanted a time that it wouldn’t be rush hour so to speak and guests would have easy access to the venue.

Our ceremony will be small with only family in attendance. Euans parents and their partners, Euan’s grandparents and my parents. My side of the family will be outnumbered however, we decided that we didn’t want siblings or extended family at the ceremony. Small and sweet. Our witnesses will be our birth Mother’s.

To follow, we have booked a small room that can host up to twenty guests at the Carmelite in Aberdeen. We have a room from 5pm and will be greeted with some arrival drinks and finger foods for our wedding party before further guests arrive for the evening meal which will be a sit down three course job with drinks to follow for those who feel like having a few. We are aware it is a school night and people may want to leave promptly after the meal, we don’t expect a wild night by any accord. I don’t think I’d hack that to be honest.

Something I previously hadn’t planned on having however with the extended guests, we decided it would be best to host a meal where we can make special memories with our nearest and dearest. We have chosen specific finger foods and a set menu that will cater for everyone with a few minor adjustments to me carried out.

The room will be filled with just twenty of our guests with three children included. Though quite small, we will have just one rounded table for eating with guests and have decided to decorate the room with different chairs and a variety of colours and fabrics.

The room will have a quirky setting with lot’s of florals for the added bohemian vibes. I’m a big fan of anything floral and have even ordered myself a flower crown for the day rather than the classic veil.

I’m not giving too much away though, there are a lot of ideas out there and I’m still mulling over decor and styles without getting over the top or stepping into a territory of expense.

My dress is all set, it’s not a wedding dress by no accord and it is certainly not designer not expensive, but it’s a dress that was gifted to me several years ago that I have been desperate to wear, it just was never suited to a day trip to the shops or visiting my Mother. It’s a special dress that I have kept in my wardrobe with the tags still on waiting patient for the perfect occasion.

Come closer to the time, I’ll share a sneak preview with you all. Don’t worry. I’d love to share all with you bunch but I have to keep some level of suspense.

We did stick to our guns and keep it as a small affair as we have no need for a big day, all we wanted was a simple yet elegant day to cherish for years to come. I can’t believe when I marry I will be holding my baby girls hand the whole way through! What a privilege, I am certainly one lucky lady and a very proud Mother.

We have found wedding bands and sized ourselves up, with a click of a button we can have them ordered to suit. I have the fancy diamond band as an engagement ring, with a wedding band I have went as basic as you can go I want nothing more than a slim yet timeless platinum band to mark my commitment.

The invites are set to go and the venues are booked, now we just need to pull it all together and we are well on our way to celebrating our big day. There’s a lot of work going on with us behind the scenes and much planning to do – much more than I expected. The notebook is out, the ideas are in and I’m never off of etsy as I try to source ideas and material for the day.

Keep your eyes peeled for further posts and wedding updates, I’m sure there will be plenty and lots of big reveals on the way. Now, if you don’t mind, I’m off to plan for the big day and scour the net for some mini moon ideas. I’m thinking a City break for the three of us.

Lots of love,

Keren x

Parting with parenthood for the first an afternoon out as new parents.

I was lucky enough to enlist my mum as babysitter for one fine Saturday afternoon while myself and Euan headed off out for our first real date post baby. I’m going to share my day with you all because frankly it’s made me super happy and reinforced just how lucky I am.

Having to leave Eleanor is tough, especially because I’m rarely apart from her and having her still feed from me brings a bond that I can’t explain. Besides if I’m without her and unable to express, my boobs balloon in size and I turn into a walking watermelon. Not kidding.

However, it is crucial to catch a little alone time as a couple and to keep that spark alive. After all, a baby doesn’t mean that you should put your relationship on hold. It’s equally as a important to spend time with your partner as it is your baby. After nine weeks of baby duties, I was so ready to take a afternoon off.

Euan has a second job in a local store beginning next week, I guess our day off was to mark a celebration of many things. Becoming parents, an engagement and now a new job prospect.

Having Euan running two jobs and not being at home so often will be a struggle and I will miss him a lot. It will take some adapting to but at least I have Eleanor to keep me busy and occupy my mind. I’m sure the extra hours he will be gone will fly by with all the things I have to be doing. I’m so proud of Euan though, to work two jobs and give up free time so that we can get into a position that we want to be in and get to where we want to be in our life takes a lot of strength and motivation.

I’d love to be able to take on part time work during this period also but I’m legally not allowed to do so while being paid maternity pay from my own line of work. I do miss having the motivation that a job brings but saying that, I am enjoying my time at home and being able to do as I please for this period. Something I may never be able to do again and time I will never get back.

Anyway, back to my day out. Where was I? Ah, yes.. Now, the big event took a morning of getting ready. In between baby feeds and tears I somehow managed to get myself all dressed up and ready to roll by noon. This doesn’t happen very often. I usually make it as far as the shower and have to make do with wet hair and a bare face.

It took several outfit changes and my wardrobe sprawled over the bed, before I finally settled with a glitter body suit and mom jeans teamed with a leather beret and some pointed boots. A slap of red lipstick and my go to cat eyeliner, good to go. Finally. Gosh, getting out the door is a challenge with a newborn isn’t it?

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It’s all too easy to let your relationship take a back seat and fall off track with the lifestyle that a newborn brings. You fight yourself some days never mind your relationship. We decided to book a day off for ourselves away from parenthood and get out for some fun and binding.

First up was a stop at Costa to grab a coffee and a wee gingerbread man for a little snack before lunch. After a waxing appointment around mid afternoon we headed off to wagamamas for some lunch and an afternoon tipple. Not something we have been able to do for a very long time! At least not just the two of us. I went with duck donbrui which is my absolute favourite from the menu and a red wine, only a small. Euan had pad thai and a beer to top it off.

How nice is it to get out and be waited on? To chat over a yummy meal and take it in the atmosphere. It’s been a long while since we last went for a meal and get quality time in, I definitely didn’t take it for granted. We saved dessert for the cinema!

Sure we make it out for a quick coffee on the odd afternoon but that’s all it ever is and all that Eleanor will allow for. Today was an exception and I’ve loved every single minute of the freedom all while missing my baby but she was in safe hands and kept well entertained by the grandparents.

We have got a little carried away with the good spirits and even began to plan out wedding, or wedding ceremony. We don’t want to have a wedding, more a very small gathering without the fuss and the big white dress. I don’t like weddings and never have but I’ll save the wedding chat for a different post!

After our meal we headed to the cinema to see Thor. We are both big cinema fans and haven’t been able to catch any new movies since I was pregnant. We last saw logan lucky back in August before Eleanor arrived. It was nice to get back out into the cinema and take in the whole atmosphere. Don’t you just love the smell of popcorn as you enter the venue?

Making the most of our day off obviously I had to get a cinema snack. Ice cream trips to the cinema were frequented up to three times a week when I was pregnant, I’ve really missed getting out to sit back and relax with a scoop of delicious ice cream. I went with orange you scared. The Halloween special (a little late with the Halloween game but you know). A chocolate orange flavour ice cream which was so delicious and rich that I couldn’t even finish the scoop. I had to give on to defeat and pass it off to Euan. Euan always opts for a mixed popcorn and I always end up stealing some off him. This trip was no exception.

Thor was really good, I’d recommend any cinema fan to go take the trip to see it. Especially of you have previously seen the avengers! There was lots of jokes throughout and laughing all round. Just what we needed.

After the cinema we decided to head to the craftsman club for a little tipple before heading back home. Euan went with a rum and ginger, a favourite of ours and I went all out with an espresso martini. Something that I have previously tried and hated but thought I’d give the benefit of the doubt. I can’t say I’d rush to have another but it certainly packed a punch and give a wee energy boost at the same time – gearing me up for the cold walk home. I do love a walk on a dark and crisp winter night. It’s just so fresh!

On the walk back home we stopped in past paperchase at a union square and picked up a planner. No more excuses or holding back. It’s time to officially get some ideas jotted down, draw up a budget plan and begin the wedding planning. As previously stated, we won’t be having much of a wedding or a reception for that matter. I’m after a much more intimate surrounding with a low budget. Hell, I don’t even want the white wedding dress or the aisle to walk down. I want no fuss. Simple and elegant.

It’s so much more important to me to have a wedding day with few close ones, a small reception affair with a meal in a nice restaurant afterwards than it is to walk down the aisle in a Castle and have a reception with the classic three course meal and wedding favours you see time and time again. To me, weddings are most of all the same.

Like I said, I’ll save the wedding post for now until we get some plans set in stone.

All in all, it’s been such a fantastic day out and it has made me really appreciate all that I have and who I have in my life. I don’t think I’ll take days out and child free for granted. I missed my snug and am so glad to be back home with her having a cuddle but man, it’s so nice to just take an afternoon off and be yourself. Be yourself with your partner and not he in parent mode.

Of course our wee Eleanor ran through our minds like crazy and there will never be a day that parent mode is fully off ever again but the time away to be ourselves and do the things we love to do has been so refreshing and rewarding. I’ve come back home feeling more in love than ever.

I hope that you are all having a great weekend. Lots of love.