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Babies first… Mother’s Day weekend.

Can you believe the time of year already? I am shocked at how rapidly time is passing with this new year, as we enter those Spring months. I haven’t seen much of Spring yet, though.

Snow, rain, sleet, wind..yep..the Beast from the East got that lot covered but no hints of Spring which is a little disappointing. Here is hoping that the flowers begin to bloom and everything starts to become a little brighter. I’m so ready to be over with the Winter, to pack away the heavy duty clothing and to see the World come to life once more. I’m ready to regain the spring in my step and to watch the lambs bound around the fields nearby.


March marks the month of Mother’s Day, an occasion that is celebrated all around the World and for good reason. March brings with it my little Sisters birthday, Females all around celebrate International Women’s day. but most importantly, March also brings to us Mothers, Mothers day. May we celebrate the women in our lives, praise our Mother’s and feel a sense of pride as we Mother our own young. March is the month of girl power, for sure. An incredible month for celebrating strong women all around.

This year round, I had the privilege to celebrate my first Mothering Sunday which I will share the details of with you. My little bebe is now six months old and in her short time with us, I’ve never felt happier. Eleanor was meant to be mine and brings with her a daring amount of responsibility. She is a privelige to Mother no matter how tough some days can be.


My journey into Motherhood has not been easy, I’ll never deny just how tough I’ve found this time. I had a difficult labour, the cluster feeding left me feeling drained, we’ve had the crushing effects of colic and reflux, a needy baby who wants to be held and will not sleep alone or even be left in the care of anyone other than myself without a drama. I battle with a feisty, breast fed baby every day who refuses a bottle point blank and screams each time I put her down or into her stroller. I can’t get a out alone often as it’s not worth the battle or the cries that do not end, it beings too much stress.

I have to go to bed at 10pm each night wether I like it or not. I cannot watch any movies or cuddle up with Euan, I have to lay in bed awake and nurse Eleanor to sleep. I could stay up, but she will scream, it doesn’t stop. Don’t even mention control crying, we have tried and I can assure you, there is nothing controlled about it.


My little Eleanor, my Snugs, is full of personality, full of strength, full of temper, charisma and might. Each day with her, I learn more about myself than I could ever imagine. My baby girl has taught me true love, she’s taught me patience, she’s taught me a sense of compassion and flexibility. She’s taught me how strong I can be and how amazing the human body is. Not only do I teach her, but she teaches me.

I couldn’t be more honoured or grateful to be Mother to such a strong willed little girl. It is an exceptional privilege to hold her, to nurse her, to love her and to see the love and the pureness in her eyes as she looks at me. I only wish I could see the world through her eyes.

To watch her grow will be a whole new level of amazement and I’m sure there will be many challenges to come. After six months of playing Mum, I am now confident within my Patenting abilities (to an extent) and I know that as a family we can over come any challenge together and move forward through each stage.

It’s been a busy weekend celebrating and I can finally catch a break to have a coffee and write a post. On Saturday, I headed out with the females of the family for an afternoon tea to ring in my sister’s birthday. Saturday was pouring of rain and cold, I was dropped off by Euan and I met with my Mum, Sister, Aunt and Cousin at the City centre and we then headed off to the chosen venue for our tea and a catch up. Euan went to the cinema as he waited for us to finish and got us back home after. Eleanor was with me also, though sleeping in her stroller.. this didn’t last ten minutes once we got to our seats.

We went to the Carmelite.. our Wedding reception venue, only I didn’t make the call to go here, it was my Sister’s choice. The hotel was busy with parties of Women and families, I assume celebrating Mother’s Day. The table we were placed at was rounded and made for easy communication. The tea/coffee was served promptly and we all dined on a variety of sandwiches, cakes and scones. Lush.

I had a veggie option and had tomato sandwiches, a small mug of soup and snacked on the sweet treats. The variety on display was great and we all had plenty to choose from. My Sister had a great time and that was the main thing, it was her day after all. Eleanor was a grouch, mot untypical of her right now with an ear infection and teething. Nothing would settle her when she became feisty and tired, not even a feed. I had to call it quits and leave a little early.

Though most of my time was spent trying to entertain Eleanor and stressing over her cries, I still had a lovely time and it was good to catch up in a setting away from home.Besides, I am a sucker for an afternoon tea.If you haven’t already guessed, coffee and cake is my kryptonite.

Come Sunday, I woke in a great mood next to my two best friends in the World. Happy Mothers day to me! We had morning cuddles and took it easy before heading out for a latte to kick start the day. The sun was shining so we grabbed our dog Fern too who happily obliged to come along for the walk. I do love a slow paced morning where there is no rush and no plans to commit too. Just me and my family against the World.

We got back from the trip and spent the afternoon doing chores while working through a Wedding song playlist which we have created for the day. We will have no DJ or live band but can play music from our own device freely. With the wedding just months away, we decided to get going and create the playlist to have ready and adapt if necessary.


Late afternoon, we headed  to Tesco to grab flowers before going up to my Mum’s house for a second birthday tea. Only, I left empty handed as the shelves were stripped of any flowers. There was nothing left, it’s a good job that I had already gifted my Mum with a print or she may have been saddened by this outcome. At Mums we had a full table of snacks and goodies, Mum always goes all out on a Birthday, no matter what age,

This time there was a huge cake for the taking. Homemade carrot cake? Don’t mind if I do!! We all tucked in to juice, snacks, pizza, egg rolls.. you name it. I’ve definitely gained the lbs this weekend. Thank god for breastfeeding and the magic calories it burns, otherwise I’d not be able to maintain a slim frame. Eleanor played in her bouncer that was set up and was happy to be passed around for cuddles..until she became grizzly and wanted nothing more than milk..typical. My Grandad had a hold of her and she burst into tears! Drama Queen.


Heading home we left with a full tummy, a full heart and an even fuller bag of goodies that was packed up for us, courtesy of Mum (a serial feeder). I always love to spend time at Mum’s with my Brothers and Sister, it brings a sense of nostalgia and I always feel at home, it is as though I had never left. It is comforting for me to be back in my comfort zone and childhood hang out, only in very different circumstances. I love to see my Family with Eleanor and interacting with her as she grows, the more that I age and grow, the more precious I believe family to be.

Back home, we created the last of our playlist and had a brief listen before I went off to bed with my baby for a big sleep. A weekend well spent brings a week of content. I have had a superb, family packed weekend where I was certainly not shy of love. A truly great first Mothers Day and I look forward to many more years just like this, if not better.


Keren x


Babies first..trip to A&E.

I noticed as I woke a little dried blood on the bed sheet, this had come from Eleanor’s ear which has also specks of blood dried up. Worried by this, I cleaned her up and kept my eye for any odd behaviour and warning signs of infections.

Eleanor has lately grown an obsession with tugging and piking at her ears, more noticeably when she is tired or having trouble with her teeth. I think she uses this as a comforting mechanism. I figured that in her sleep she must have caught herself and given a good scratch with her nails leaving a little damage behind. I wasn’t aware there was an ear infection brewing, and rapidly.

At lunch time, Euan came home for lunch as usual and was having his cuddle with Eleanor before heading back out when he passed comment that her ear was smelly and raw looking. Upon inspection, I began to panic that there was something serious under lying and that a minor irritation wasn’t just the issue. How I hadn’t noticed, I in the few hours from waking to lunch, I don’t know. Eleanor’s ear was raw red, pussy and definitely infected. There no mistaken the smell of an infection.

I called the doctor and got an appointment for the following afternoon and was advised to clear up her ear with sterile salt water regularly. Happy with this advice, I done so and I done so as best as I could. As best as I could with a wriggly six month old anyway. I was happy that this was going to settle this issue and ease of discomfort until the following day, however come 8PM after a wee trip out, her ear was progressively worse and smelling very angry, looking very unhappy.

Poor baby was having trouble, you could tell she wasn’t feeling right, irritable, crying for what seemed to reason and refusing food. We decided to take further action and call the late night doctor, got booked in and headed off soon after to the emergency department. Upon arrival, we were told to head to the fracture clinic..now,a young couple with a crying baby heading to the fracture clinic, passing a room full of waiting patients never looks good, does it?

I actually felt as though our every moved was being scrutinised by unaware individuals as we passed. Needless to say, I kept my head down. Low profile and all that. The wait wasn’t too long and Eleanor sat on our knees and had a wee play, good as gold really. You wouldn’t have thought it by the cries coming from her in the car but she surpassed expectations.

The doctor had a check of all her crucial stats and inspected her ears. Low and behold, an ear Infection.. Perhaps a burst ear drum but too hard to know with being unable to see far down the canal and Eleanor being so small. We were given a dose of amxocillin for a course of six days to clear up the infection and advised to see the Gp after this time for a check over to get the all clear. With this being her ears, I’d not like to risk lasting damage and will call first thing tomorrow to arrange for a check up. My poor baby.

It seems to be one thing after another for her right now and with being so tiny, so helpless, I really feel all of her pain only I wish I could take it away and have her as comfortable as possible at all times. Teething, colds, coughs, rashes with sensitive skin, ear aches…you name it. Man, I never thought a baby could suffer from so much in one spell. I was made aware that breastfeeding would help to eliminate colds/coughs etc and aid the immune system for both Mum and baby but this is not the case with us. We seem to pass back and forth colds and all sorts. I just wish for my baby to get a break!

It breaks my heart to see her so unhappy and unwell. It truly is the most horrible thing to see someone you love so deeply in pain and distress. Thigh she takes it like a trooper and still smiles throughout the tears, it just makes me so upset. I only wish for her a speedy recovery and hopefully some lasting relief, a break from all of the growing pains, the teething, the colds. You name it.

Motherhood really is more than just nursing a sleeping baby and changing nappies. Each day is so complex and different from the next, you dint know what is around the corner and babies moods can change in an instant. As Eleanor grows, I find there is so many complications that growth brings. The spurts, the sleep regression, teething, general unwellness, issues with sensitivity, all things that you do not really prepare for or fully expect when you bring home your newborn on those first days. It’s not all black and white as I am learning and Motherhood is challenging, it is testing and it is powerful.

I’ve never known a love like this and the want for a better life for this little lady. Here’s to a fast recovery, I’m off to sneak her some cuddles as she rests before hitting the hay myself. I’m sure I won’t sleep for worry and checking on her but I’ll give it a try. Tomorrow is a new day and with that I’m hopeful it can be a better day and I will see my baby happy once again.

What was your first experience with a trip to accident and emergency with your babe? Has anyone had trouble with ear infections in children?

Goodnight, Keren.

Made with love. An insight to my handcrafted wedding.

Hi guys, hope everyone is well? I know that I previously stated I’d update you all with the wedding plans when I had some going. Well, you will be glad to hear, the party planning is in full swing and I’m working away on ideas and decor planning. I thought it would be good to do a wee update and let you all hear about how I am getting on.

I’m not keen to give away too much information just yet, I feel a sense of suspense is quite nice and keeps it a little secretive. After all, my wedding day is my baby right now along with my darling Eleanor of course and I keep the day and the organising close to heart. This is mainly due to the fact that as it is my wedding day, a once in a lifetime day for myself and my family, it will hold a special place in my heart forever and I want to keep it sacred and close to me.

As mentioned, my wedding will be a small affair with at most twenty guests,  providing each invite guest makes it along that is. I have been working away in the background hard at getting plans in place for the decoration of the reception room where we will host our wedding meal. Trying to get my plans set and in order for the day as soon when I return to work following maternity leave, I will be lacking the time to plan and organise. Hence why I am so keen to remain full steam ahead right now. I am on a limited time frame.

The reception room we have will cater to our guests of twenty and the room is basically an empty canvas where we can play around and have fun with the decor and design. I have in mind the picture of what I want, it’s just putting it all together right now. The table will be one large round table, with a side table off set for holding the cakes and favours. I have free reign to design the room and tables as I wish. Time to dig in and have a little fun.

I am thinking home made, hand crafted and a little bit bohemian! Lots of floral and pastels coming together in a rustic feel. Whatever rustic means. What does rustic mean? Whatever, it sounds good.

Our wedding cakes will be homemade by none other than my own Mother,the best baker I know, as bias as I may be. We wish for two cakes, one tier and round. A fruit cake with a marzipan and iced topping and also a homemade victoria sponge. By no means will they be showstoppers but they aren’t supposed to be either. If I wanted a perfecly crafted cake, I’d have went to a bakery and have the professionals work away.

I’m busy picking out cake decorations right now. Going for a plain sponge with minimal decor with the Victoria cake and hoping to cover our fruit cake with florals and a pretty yet simple cake topper. Nothing fancy and certainly not perfection but to me, it will be perfect. I will be ready to scour etsy and find a handcrafted wooden topper.

For our favours, again these will be homemade with love by my younger sister and presented in cellophane bags, hand wrapped and crafted in my own way. I have this all set and ready to roll with the bags and decorations already picked out. I will remain coy and keep my ideas to myself for now. I can’t be giving away all my plans after all, otherwise, I’d not keep you interested. If ever I had your interest anyway.

With the room decor I’m raring to go with a minimalist look and add plenty of florals to the room. I’m yet to decide on a table topper but wish for a mix of pastels. I have confetti and little floral buds and petals picked out to sprinkle over the table in a variety of pastel mix.

As there will be so little of us, I’ve requested for just one large table to dine at with the hope for plenty of interaction and chatting. After all, it’s about having a good time. I thought that a top table with a few others would be too spaced out and not have the cosy feel that I’m looking for. I’d like to imagine everyone chatting away and having a merry wine together. I want plenty of laughter from all and for everyone to have a great time.

I’m trying to work as inexpensive as possible, mainly due to the fact I don’t want glitz or glam and I don’t believe that spending a fortune makes for a good day. I mean the average cost of a wedding is near enough £26,000. Madness.

I hope to keep my budget at £1500 all in all. That’s for the rings, ceremony, reception meal and drinks, the hotel suites along with everything else. I’m keen to remain strict in this. Call me a cheap skate but I don’t believe in splashing the cash out for one day. I don’t deem it ever necessary to fork out such an expense and I don’t think a huge expense ensures a good time either.

I want to do lots of hand crafting, lots of creating and get making. I’d like to take on as big of a role as I can with the whole. Preparation and have my wedding crafted by my own hand. There’s something about doing it yourself that just screams good vibes.

I’m super excited to get stuck in and get my hands busy with crafting and my mind busy with planning. When I have a little more plans in place and something more to show, I will share with you all. In the meantime, I’ll get back to browsing etsy and other local markets for home made goods and crafting parts that I can put together by my own hands. I have been a local at hobby craft of late. Trailing the aisles for bits and bobs that I can work with. May I add, I am by no means good with arts and crafts.

I aim for my wedding day to be as close to heart as possible and therefore hope to put most of the day together by myself or with the help from some close family members. Opting for a local, homemade wedding day that I can cherish forever more.

Does anyone have any tips or tricks on homemade weddings? I’m open to any ideas and suggestions that are just a little bit different from the norm!

Keren xo


We set the date!

Well, I must say that the year has been kind to us. The most special year I have had yet, the year we began the family adventure, the year we got engaged, the year life as we knew it changed forever. I have taken only the good from 2017 and will carry it with me for the rest of my life. It’s not every year you have your first child or get engaged!

To keep the trend going and end the year with a bang, we decided to take the plunge, set the date and book our wedding ceremony. We done this is all of two days may I add, with a baby in tow. Productivity at its finest.

With having the perfect date in mind, we already had a good idea of when we would wed, we just didn’t have the year in place. The fourth of September was our date of choice, already a special day for us as it is both our anniversary and the date of which we took Eleanor to have her birth registered. We thought to extend the day with another happy memory and add to it the day that we are to become husband and wife.

Euan called the office on Friday morning to check that the date was available for the coming year, 2018. They had the date free and we had the choice of time slot to attend. With it being a Tuesday, a funny day to marry.. we know, we went with an early afternoon slot. As the local registrar is a central location we wanted a time that it wouldn’t be rush hour so to speak and guests would have easy access to the venue.

Our ceremony will be small with only family in attendance. Euans parents and their partners, Euan’s grandparents and my parents. My side of the family will be outnumbered however, we decided that we didn’t want siblings or extended family at the ceremony. Small and sweet. Our witnesses will be our birth Mother’s.

To follow, we have booked a small room that can host up to twenty guests at the Carmelite in Aberdeen. We have a room from 5pm and will be greeted with some arrival drinks and finger foods for our wedding party before further guests arrive for the evening meal which will be a sit down three course job with drinks to follow for those who feel like having a few. We are aware it is a school night and people may want to leave promptly after the meal, we don’t expect a wild night by any accord. I don’t think I’d hack that to be honest.

Something I previously hadn’t planned on having however with the extended guests, we decided it would be best to host a meal where we can make special memories with our nearest and dearest. We have chosen specific finger foods and a set menu that will cater for everyone with a few minor adjustments to me carried out.

The room will be filled with just twenty of our guests with three children included. Though quite small, we will have just one rounded table for eating with guests and have decided to decorate the room with different chairs and a variety of colours and fabrics.

The room will have a quirky setting with lot’s of florals for the added bohemian vibes. I’m a big fan of anything floral and have even ordered myself a flower crown for the day rather than the classic veil.

I’m not giving too much away though, there are a lot of ideas out there and I’m still mulling over decor and styles without getting over the top or stepping into a territory of expense.

My dress is all set, it’s not a wedding dress by no accord and it is certainly not designer not expensive, but it’s a dress that was gifted to me several years ago that I have been desperate to wear, it just was never suited to a day trip to the shops or visiting my Mother. It’s a special dress that I have kept in my wardrobe with the tags still on waiting patient for the perfect occasion.

Come closer to the time, I’ll share a sneak preview with you all. Don’t worry. I’d love to share all with you bunch but I have to keep some level of suspense.

We did stick to our guns and keep it as a small affair as we have no need for a big day, all we wanted was a simple yet elegant day to cherish for years to come. I can’t believe when I marry I will be holding my baby girls hand the whole way through! What a privilege, I am certainly one lucky lady and a very proud Mother.

We have found wedding bands and sized ourselves up, with a click of a button we can have them ordered to suit. I have the fancy diamond band as an engagement ring, with a wedding band I have went as basic as you can go I want nothing more than a slim yet timeless platinum band to mark my commitment.

The invites are set to go and the venues are booked, now we just need to pull it all together and we are well on our way to celebrating our big day. There’s a lot of work going on with us behind the scenes and much planning to do – much more than I expected. The notebook is out, the ideas are in and I’m never off of etsy as I try to source ideas and material for the day.

Keep your eyes peeled for further posts and wedding updates, I’m sure there will be plenty and lots of big reveals on the way. Now, if you don’t mind, I’m off to plan for the big day and scour the net for some mini moon ideas. I’m thinking a City break for the three of us.

Lots of love,

Keren x

A Holly, jolly, Christmas.

Our first Christmas as a family of three has been and gone so I thought that I’d write a small blog dedicated to the big day. A special day for us as a new family and a day I’m sure will hold special memories for years to come.


As previously mentioned, we spent the day at home alone as a family. Family visits and meals were done and dusted before the day so that we could spend it alone and have some us time for a change. Life really does get so busy and you get caught up, forget to take time out for yourself and your family, especially at busy times like this but this year, we didn’t want for that to happen. This year was about us and our baby girl.

Now, we had the choice of options for where to spend the day but rather than run around like crazy and spend the whole day chasing tail, we decided to just have a quiet day indoors and enjoy the company of one another in the comfort of home. Take the day at our own pace.

On Christmas morning, we all excitedly woke. As tired as we were, Christmas is a big day and we wanted to make the most of the time we had. The eve was a rough night for a little Eleanor my poor tootie, she spent most of the night keeping Mum up with constant feeding. Although tired, we didn’t let it ruin the day. We pushed on and had a lovely time.

Once up and ready, we dressed and got Eleanor all sorted, in a little Mrs Claus outfit may I add! Too cute, I know. We played some music and sat around the tree as we exchanged and opened gifts. I made sure to allow Eleanor to touch and see each gift so she would have some knowledge of the moment. We all received lovely gifts and Eleanor was totally spoiled not just by Santa, but from the grandparents and family. It was so exciting opening her gifts and packing away all of her new goodies. It’s definitely clothes galore around here.


Presents aside, it was onto breakfast. Bacon rolls, a traditional Christmas breakfast with my family which we have carried on to our own. This is as followed by a walk around with our dog Fern before coming back home to relax before I began the dinner.

We played with Eleanor and watched some Netflix, listened to music.. Christmas classics of course. For the dinner, I made a tomato and pepper soup to start with, now.. this turned out to be more of a salsa and really not much of a soup. A few mouthfuls in, we laughed and decided to call it quits with the dodgy soup and wait for the main event. I mean, the bread was tasty at least. Not all terrible and we didn’t go hungry.

Between feeds we watched shows and chilled. There were plenty of snuggles and interactive conversation. The main course, a traditional Christmas dinner was quite the success and we ate it all really, Fern got the left overs which I’m sure she woofed down (she’s meant to be on a diet.. Shh). I intended to cook a turkey however, on Christmas eve I discovered it required forty eight hours to defrost, not just a mere twenty four which I had initially thought and planned for. Oops. You can probably tell that I don’t cook often, especially meat.

Last minute on Christmas eve, we had to make a run to Tesco to pick up some form of meat for the dinner. A pork and sage pre cooked joint. Phew. Thank you Tesco for saving the day. I’m still annoyed at myself with the Turkey though. I thought I was all set, could have been a disaster, I dread to think if I hadn’t checked the instructions and poisoned us all! My God.

In the evening, we hadn’t much room for dessert so rather we smacked on chocolates and watched Elf all cosied up on the couch with a blanket. Just the three of us with Fern at our feet and the snack bowl in our laps. I recall falling asleep for most of the movie, this is not unusual for me though, I’d had a sneaky glass of red, I was never going to survive after that. It was a lovely end to a great day together, watching a fun filled classic and reminiscing on the events of the past year. Boy, 2017 has been good to us. A year to remember for sure, I’ll post a blog to reflect on the year. The ups and the downs but for now, I just wanted to share an update about our first Christmas day as a wee team with our baby girl.

I couldn’t have wished for a better it, though quiet, we were content with the company we had and we got the day to relax which is what we wanted more than anything. Some down time after the whole rush from the weeks leading up to Christmas, time to refresh as far as that gets with a baby and to put our feet up. It sure is nice to stop and take a break from it all, especially as a family unit. Sitting back together and taking it all in is truly how it feels to be happy. To share a life with someone that you love and enjoy quality time.


For me, that is what Christmas is all about, the quality time to spend and share with family and loved ones. It was a day that I won’t ever forget and will forever hold a special place in my heart, even when things get a bit hectic, I can look back at this festive period and remember how relaxed and content that we were. Years from now when my baby is running around as High as a kite on Christmas day, I can peacefully look back and remember this first Christmas with her. At home as a new family finding our feet, snuggled up and embracing everything that life has to offer. I really love my family more than anything, I’d have never expected to experience such a love or even have my own family at this stage in my life. I am so proud and grateful for all that life has passed my way. What’s meant for you won’t pass you by.

Merry Christmas to you all, I truly wish that everyone had a great Christmas break and spent the day just as they wished to do so. Not to mention eat way too much spoils…guilty.

Next up, Hogmanay. Onto new beginnings, 2017 has been fantastic, here’s to the New Year and what that may bring our way.

Love Keren x

The pessimists guide to Wedding planning.

To be or not to be.

….shocker alert.

Okay, don’t panic. I’ve not ran off to get married in secret, yet. Here I am, twenty five years of age, a newly engaged, Mother of one with a whole lot of prospects for the future –  Marriage being one of those prospects added to the never ending list.

Whats the catch? Well, the thing is..  I don’t want a Wedding. I mean, I want to be married to my partner by all means but the Wedding is an unnecessary event and an expense that I don’t particularly want.

Here is the thing, I love my fiance and I truly am living the happy family life I have always desired. To be married to my best friend will be a dream, only the thought of a Wedding ceremony is quite disturbing.  The thought of all the planning and running around makes me nauseated.

I, I mean.. we, have decided that when we choose to marry, whenever that may be, will hold a very intimate ceremony. A celebration between ourselves,there will be no big ordeal and most definitely no fuss.

I know that I’m talking Weddings but there is no rush to walk down the aisle. I mean, we have a child already. We’ve done this all back to front as it is. We have essentially eliminated the need to race to the alter. There is nothing to prove. Not to ourselves or anyone else.

When we do set the date and take our vows, I have opted to have a ceremony of as little as five guests in a local registrar office. I know, this may seem crazy to some of you out there. What type of woman doesn’t want the lavish ceremony of her dreams? The big special day that most of us dream of from the age of six?

I am not that person and I never have been. Weddings have never interested me, I dread having to attend them and marriage was never on my mind. I didn’t dig for an engagement and I could remain happily unmarried for life. Not because I don’t love my fiance, but because a a wedding is just an over the top event in my mind. No Wedding, no matter how big nor small can prove the love that you share with another. Unpopular opinion, I know.

I feel that proving your love to someone doesn’t need to be a massive ordeal. Especially when you know you are with this person for life (I have known since our first date). We have made a beautiful baby girl together and no Wedding can compare to the feelings, the love, the emotions that have already been accomplished. I can only hope to expand our family with time and continue to lead a happy family life. To focus our time, attention and love on our family life and ourselves comes first.

Sure, like any girl, I like pretty things, but I don’t care for a big Wedding and I don’t think I’m wrong not to care how we take our vows. I love my partner regardless of the location we wed at and how we decide to do it.

Hell, had we been in Vegas when Euan proposed, I’d have taken a drive through wedding with some strangers from the street as witnesses. Sorry, Mum. For me, my relationship is important, not the dress I wear for the day.

Why dont I want a Wedding ceremony you ask? Rather simply, I don’t want to spend my wedding day entertaining others or wondering if everyone else is having a good time. I want to hold the day as close to my heart as possible with as few people as possible. To enjoy the day with my partner and my girl and not to have to stress about pleasing others. Maybe that is my selfish side coming out to play.

Real romantic, huh?

I don’t need the whole all eyes on me wedding. I don’t want to be inviting cousins to my Wedding day that I haven’t seen in years. I don’t want the big white dress, the bridesmaids, the fuss and I don’t want the over expensive three course meal which is similar at every single wedding. A wedding is an opportunity for others to come together and get drunk.

Will the hassle and months of planning for the big day be worth it? I mean, will it even be remembered the following morning by guests when hangovers are being nursed and bodies are refuelled with bacon rolls?

Soup, roast dinner, sticky toffee pudding? Not for me.The thing is wether I need the big white traditional wedding or not, I don’t want it. They are all so similar to me, what difference is there from one traditional wedding to the next? The bouquet? The Ed Sheeran song that plays as the first dance?

I don’t want to spend days stressing and planning a wedding to become so blindsighted by planning that reality is taken away from me. I don’t want to focus all my attention on a wedding that may or may not leave me happy but most certainly leave me in debt for a long time.

I don’t want to hit the crash, post wedding where reality hits, the day is done, and suddenly nothing changes bar the Surname. Perhaps I’m a pessimist when it comes to relationships and their ability to withstand a Marriage. I’ve seen all too often the sadness that Marriage can bring and the difficulties that can occur. R

By the way, I don’t think by skipping the whole ceremony that makes me somewhat exempt to any marriage issues. I am fully aware wedded bliss doesn’t last forever or for any couple. We all have our problems.

A wedding doesn’t make or break a relationship and if you believe a wedding will make for a better relationship is a marriage really for you? I’m not going to judge how others plan their wedding and create the day of their dreams. I’m going to focus on creating the day of my dreams as small as that may be. It will be as wonderful to me as any wedding would be to another.

We can’t compare and criticise the way in which we choose to marry.

We are just two people, in love who will someday wed without the big scene and take our vows together as a couple. What could be more romantic? What more does one need?

After all, when the guests pack up and leave, all you are left with is each other and perhaps an array of unnecessary gifts to make space for from the John Lewis wish list. The scent of that Yankee candle won’t solidify your relationship, I’m afraid.

The dress,the awkward and touchy posed photograph’s and the unknown guests who you haven’t been in touch with since Childhood?  I don’t want it. I want to wear a pretty dress, take my vows with only a room of five others and go out for a nice pub meal afterwards. I don’t even want a wedding reception. Hell, I have about three friends, what on Earth do I need an all singing and dancing reception for?

So that’s that, don’t be waiting for an invitation for a Wedding on our behalf because when the day comes, it will be special specifically to us. I’ll share the smartphone snaps with you all at a later date.

Now that I’ve shared my thoughts and plans for the not so big day I’m eager to here from you guys on this. Marriage is a big deal after all and a Wedding day is a day we all hold close to our hearts, I’m sure.

How did you spend your big day? Would you do it all differently if given the chance?

Lots of love.