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Babies first… Mother’s Day weekend.

Can you believe the time of year already? I am shocked at how rapidly time is passing with this new year, as we enter those Spring months. I haven’t seen much of Spring yet, though.

Snow, rain, sleet, wind..yep..the Beast from the East got that lot covered but no hints of Spring which is a little disappointing. Here is hoping that the flowers begin to bloom and everything starts to become a little brighter. I’m so ready to be over with the Winter, to pack away the heavy duty clothing and to see the World come to life once more. I’m ready to regain the spring in my step and to watch the lambs bound around the fields nearby.

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March marks the month of Mother’s Day, an occasion that is celebrated all around the World and for good reason. March brings with it my little Sisters birthday, Females all around celebrate International Women’s day. but most importantly, March also brings to us Mothers, Mothers day. May we celebrate the women in our lives, praise our Mother’s and feel a sense of pride as we Mother our own young. March is the month of girl power, for sure. An incredible month for celebrating strong women all around.

This year round, I had the privilege to celebrate my first Mothering Sunday which I will share the details of with you. My little bebe is now six months old and in her short time with us, I’ve never felt happier. Eleanor was meant to be mine and brings with her a daring amount of responsibility. She is a privelige to Mother no matter how tough some days can be.

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My journey into Motherhood has not been easy, I’ll never deny just how tough I’ve found this time. I had a difficult labour, the cluster feeding left me feeling drained, we’ve had the crushing effects of colic and reflux, a needy baby who wants to be held and will not sleep alone or even be left in the care of anyone other than myself without a drama. I battle with a feisty, breast fed baby every day who refuses a bottle point blank and screams each time I put her down or into her stroller. I can’t get a out alone often as it’s not worth the battle or the cries that do not end, it beings too much stress.

I have to go to bed at 10pm each night wether I like it or not. I cannot watch any movies or cuddle up with Euan, I have to lay in bed awake and nurse Eleanor to sleep. I could stay up, but she will scream, it doesn’t stop. Don’t even mention control crying, we have tried and I can assure you, there is nothing controlled about it.

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My little Eleanor, my Snugs, is full of personality, full of strength, full of temper, charisma and might. Each day with her, I learn more about myself than I could ever imagine. My baby girl has taught me true love, she’s taught me patience, she’s taught me a sense of compassion and flexibility. She’s taught me how strong I can be and how amazing the human body is. Not only do I teach her, but she teaches me.

I couldn’t be more honoured or grateful to be Mother to such a strong willed little girl. It is an exceptional privilege to hold her, to nurse her, to love her and to see the love and the pureness in her eyes as she looks at me. I only wish I could see the world through her eyes.

To watch her grow will be a whole new level of amazement and I’m sure there will be many challenges to come. After six months of playing Mum, I am now confident within my Patenting abilities (to an extent) and I know that as a family we can over come any challenge together and move forward through each stage.

It’s been a busy weekend celebrating and I can finally catch a break to have a coffee and write a post. On Saturday, I headed out with the females of the family for an afternoon tea to ring in my sister’s birthday. Saturday was pouring of rain and cold, I was dropped off by Euan and I met with my Mum, Sister, Aunt and Cousin at the City centre and we then headed off to the chosen venue for our tea and a catch up. Euan went to the cinema as he waited for us to finish and got us back home after. Eleanor was with me also, though sleeping in her stroller.. this didn’t last ten minutes once we got to our seats.

We went to the Carmelite.. our Wedding reception venue, only I didn’t make the call to go here, it was my Sister’s choice. The hotel was busy with parties of Women and families, I assume celebrating Mother’s Day. The table we were placed at was rounded and made for easy communication. The tea/coffee was served promptly and we all dined on a variety of sandwiches, cakes and scones. Lush.

I had a veggie option and had tomato sandwiches, a small mug of soup and snacked on the sweet treats. The variety on display was great and we all had plenty to choose from. My Sister had a great time and that was the main thing, it was her day after all. Eleanor was a grouch, mot untypical of her right now with an ear infection and teething. Nothing would settle her when she became feisty and tired, not even a feed. I had to call it quits and leave a little early.

Though most of my time was spent trying to entertain Eleanor and stressing over her cries, I still had a lovely time and it was good to catch up in a setting away from home.Besides, I am a sucker for an afternoon tea.If you haven’t already guessed, coffee and cake is my kryptonite.

Come Sunday, I woke in a great mood next to my two best friends in the World. Happy Mothers day to me! We had morning cuddles and took it easy before heading out for a latte to kick start the day. The sun was shining so we grabbed our dog Fern too who happily obliged to come along for the walk. I do love a slow paced morning where there is no rush and no plans to commit too. Just me and my family against the World.

We got back from the trip and spent the afternoon doing chores while working through a Wedding song playlist which we have created for the day. We will have no DJ or live band but can play music from our own device freely. With the wedding just months away, we decided to get going and create the playlist to have ready and adapt if necessary.

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Late afternoon, we headed  to Tesco to grab flowers before going up to my Mum’s house for a second birthday tea. Only, I left empty handed as the shelves were stripped of any flowers. There was nothing left, it’s a good job that I had already gifted my Mum with a print or she may have been saddened by this outcome. At Mums we had a full table of snacks and goodies, Mum always goes all out on a Birthday, no matter what age,

This time there was a huge cake for the taking. Homemade carrot cake? Don’t mind if I do!! We all tucked in to juice, snacks, pizza, egg rolls.. you name it. I’ve definitely gained the lbs this weekend. Thank god for breastfeeding and the magic calories it burns, otherwise I’d not be able to maintain a slim frame. Eleanor played in her bouncer that was set up and was happy to be passed around for cuddles..until she became grizzly and wanted nothing more than milk..typical. My Grandad had a hold of her and she burst into tears! Drama Queen.

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Heading home we left with a full tummy, a full heart and an even fuller bag of goodies that was packed up for us, courtesy of Mum (a serial feeder). I always love to spend time at Mum’s with my Brothers and Sister, it brings a sense of nostalgia and I always feel at home, it is as though I had never left. It is comforting for me to be back in my comfort zone and childhood hang out, only in very different circumstances. I love to see my Family with Eleanor and interacting with her as she grows, the more that I age and grow, the more precious I believe family to be.

Back home, we created the last of our playlist and had a brief listen before I went off to bed with my baby for a big sleep. A weekend well spent brings a week of content. I have had a superb, family packed weekend where I was certainly not shy of love. A truly great first Mothers Day and I look forward to many more years just like this, if not better.

 

Keren x

 

Living in a modern day society deprived of fulfilling basic manners.

  Manners are designed to acknowledge others but all too often I feel that we are failing to use our manners. We are too consumed with technology and caught up with ourselves. People have bumped into me and have not muttered a word, no apology.

I’ve had doors closed on my face, people queue jump a lift as I wait in line with my baby in her Pram, people fail to step out from a lift to allow me to pass. They stand and watch with judgement as I try to manoeuvre myself and the Pram out, desperate not to squish any toes. Though, if I happened to roll on any toes by accident,  of course it would be my fault and the blame be pinned on me, not the individual who lacked basic manners and failed to move out of the way.

We as people are now failing to say please and thank you when ordering their morning latte. Basic manners have slipped our minds. This is becoming an increasingly big issue and I worry that come time, there will be no sense of manners. Society will become a free for all and not one of us will look out for the other. Is this the way we want to raise our children? The next generation?

We as people, are failing to respect one another and respond appropriately to a small act of kindness, such as making room on the pavement for another to pass. Is it so difficult to say please, thank you, sorry? I was raised to have good manners and to use these at all times. To be kind,to have compassion and to help others in need. I never saw differently and like to believe that I always treat others respectfully, the way I would like to be treated. I find myself often disappointed at the lack of morals I share with others in our society. Perhaps I expect too much but believe me when I say that modern day manners are lacking in society.

On a recent walk during a Saturday afternoon with our dog,  we found a woman passed out beneath a park bench resting next to a river. Clearly intoxicated and in a bad way, we stopped to help and call for an ambulance. I don’t know how long she had been sprawled on the ground prior and have no indication of how she got there. I was afraid that she would tumble into the water and there would be no going back. As we were waiting for an ambulance to arrive, it became clear that we were the only people along a busy road to have the decency and sense to stop. That no other would bother. Not one person stopped to offer a hand. Heavily pregnant and with our dog in tow, we waited around an hour for help to arrive and watched in astonishment as passers by merely stared. With passing cars and pedestrians you would think that someone, even just one individual would stop and offer a hand. Again, I must have expected too much.

When help arrived, we were shunned and made to feel as though we shouldn’t have bothered to call for help. The ambulance crew did not mutter such as a thank you and the woman in need did not show a care in the world. I felt ashamed and was upset with this, we were made to feel as though we were wrong to have called for help. Had we not, would someone else have bothered, or would the woman have been left outside in the cold to perish?

Perhaps we are all losing our manners because our acts of kindness go unnoticed and seem unwanted. Why should we bother to help others, to say please and thank you if this is not well received?

Wether people were too embarrassed or afraid to stop or wether they simply could not be bothered, I don’t know. What I do know is that this woman could have came to find herself in a very bad way or even had died if left alone and not one person took the time to even just ask wether she was okay or offer a hand. Hypothermia, choking, drowning. The possibility of a life threatening issue arising was high and I didn’t want to take any chances.

I’d hate to imagine that was my gran who had taken a fall and was left to lay on the ground alone until someone could be bothered to see she were okay. Have we all become too consumed within ourselves and caught up in our own lives that we forget about others and fail to show respect, to show compassion?  Where are our manners?

When you open a door for someone you acknowledge their presence and the need for you both to use the door at the same time. Wether you nod, smile awkwardly or simply say “Thanks”, you return the acknowledgement. Don’t over complicate opening a door for another  with feminism or being a gentlemen, there isn’t any need. This is simply a door that requires opening and it’s rude to shut it in someone’s face. End of.

Have you offered help to an elderly lady across the street? Checked in on your parents, grandparents? These manners are a basic mechanism for those in society who are less able to protect themselves. Manners are not only for communication purposes, manners have the ability to protect others. To protect and care for vulnerable groups within our society. Groups that we are beginning to forget.

Manners are designed to offer fairness, to give each person an equal opportunity. We are taught to wait our turn in the queue, not to interrupt someone who is talking. These simple manners evolved so that everyone is given an equal chance and the opportunity to participate. Manners provide us with an element of fairness, equality and order.

Without manners it would simply be a free for all and who decides who comes first?  What’s to say that one person is more important than the person next to them? There are no barriers without manners. I’m afraid society is becoming more of a free for all and it is every man for himself. It’s a dog eat dog world for sure.

Manners are designed to reduce conflict and without these in place I fear that we will become over run with daily issues, big and small.

Think of all the recent times you have been annoyed at an individual. Maybe while driving your car, out on the weekly shopping trip, or even just walking in a crowded place. I could go on.There is a good chance that you were annoyed because the person who caused you to feel this way had failed to show basic manners. Failing to indicate when heading in a certain direction, failing to move out of your way as you try to squeeze your way through a busy crowd.

Manners should be used to reduce the strain between people in the same way that traffic lights are used to reduce accidents at crossings. With society failing to participate to meet standards, I am afraid that conflict among ourselves is becoming rife and this is a big problem.

Would you rather be treated with respect or treated rudely? People treated with a little respect and dignity are more likely to be positive toward you than if you treated them poorly. I think that this is something we all need to keep in mind and we must remind ourselves of our manners and the part that they play within society.

Next time you order your morning latte, remember to wait your turn in the line and to thank your barista.

Manners can make such a difference and even just having someone hold the door open for me can make my day. I’m going to ensure that my daughter is raised to have strong manners and good morals. She will be raised to grow to become a polite and kind woman, to have compassion and to have the ability to connect with others and offer help if required.

Society may be losing its manners, but I am sure not going to lose mine. These will be inflicted and influenced within my family and our household because I know just how important they can be and how important they can make you feel.

 I will not lose myself and the standards to which I was raised to a society that has become ignorant and thankless.

Let’s again pick ourselves up and raise our modern day standards for the greater good of our society. If we don’t act fast, I am afraid for the future of our generation and the generations that may follow.

 

  Thanks for reading,

 

   Keren x